Frithmas is coming...

[ambitious_wench]

Ah, the holidays. How good it is to actually have a list of folks to send cards to this year. I don't have any relatives that I am close to, other than some cousins in Alaska, and they are not too keen on the "Weird Pagan-Lesbian Cousin Back East Who Occasionally Calls And Talks About Our Childhood."

I have a father somewhere, but even my two half brothers don't hear from him. And to be honest, I don't have much connection with my half brothers, either. Since Techi's Mom died this April, I don't have her to send a card to anymore, either. In fact, we are thinking of not even putting up a tree this year because of her death. We miss her terribly, and it was always such a joy to have her over for holidays, her delight in the decorations. This is the first year since her death, and we are hurting still.

So when the opportunity to join the Frithmas Card list on Alt.Devilbunnies arose, I grabbed at it with both hands. I love writing cards. I love finding the right cards to send, and then personalizing them for each recipient. I can't draw worth a damn. I can stitch, but I just didn't have time to make Hardanger ornaments this year.

I won't say what I am sending out. You will have to wait until you get it in the mail to see!

Happy Holidays,
E. Howe.

Comments

Holiday Cheer

[scascot.livejournal.com]

I remember when my grandfather died. It was December 7, 1981 - which worked out to be really ironic. You see, he was in Hawaii in 1941. Survived the attack, survived Burma, survived the war. And died exactly 40 years later.

That year, grandmother didn't want to put up a tree, or even celebrate the holidays, but mother insisted. She said it was what grandfather would have wanted. And she was right. Not exactly the best christmas ever, in terms of happiness, but it brought us together as a family. It was a christmas to remember.

So, my advice to you is to put up that tree, if only because "mom" would have enjoyed it. You won't be sorry.

Re: Holiday Cheer

[ambitious-wench.livejournal.com]

Kinsman,

I think you may be right. However, it will be a chore convincing Techi of it.

I will try, because I know theat mom would have wanted it that way.

Wish me luck.
E.

Re: Holiday Cheer

[scascot.livejournal.com]

Luck, health, and best wishes. Always.

You know that.

[reynardo.livejournal.com]

The first Christmas after a death is always hard, no matter what death or how it happened.

Let Techi decide. If she's in for a quiet day at home, so be it. And if she, like my mother, spends 3 days looking for the right front door decoration, go with her 'cause she'll be crying a lot of the time (maybe inside). My mother wanted anything but a wreath. Have you any idea how hard it was to find a front door decoration that wasn't a wreath?

Also, beware of overpowering relatives. Be prepared to tell them to go away. We wish we had.

Holidays

[ambitious-wench.livejournal.com]

Rey,

Regarding what we will be doing on Chrstmas day, I will let Techi decide. It's her life, and her way fo dealing with her loss.

But I want decoration, a tree, and I'll put it up myself as I have done each year. Perhaps I'll have my son come down and help me.

As for overbearing relatives, well, George (her father) knows he is not welcome here. Her sister will not come with out him. We will not have to deal with him. And I have no worries that if they do show up, Techi will most certainly send at least him packing.

If she doesn't, I will.

You know I can do it, don't you?

AW.